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This Sentence Will Prevent You From Success

I hear this sentence repeatedly from everyone around me. It’s a kind of magic sentence that everyone, and I mean EVERYONE has in their vocabulary. And the funny thing is that this isn’t even true.

I believe that this sentence is the number one reason people don’t go for their dreams, don’t reach their goals and don’t succeed regardless of which area of their life we’re talking about.

And the sentence is: “I don’t have time”.

I hear this soooo much, especially from mums. So, let’s just pause here for a second.

I totally understand that mummy’s life is busy. I know what’s like to be a mum. I’m a mum myself, so I get it. I really GET IT, for real.

However, I also know how to make the most out of my time, how to prioritise, how to be productive, how to know what I need to do and when I need to do it and how to make it happen. And I know many amazing mums who know that too. And the results show up in their lives all the time.

Every time when I hear “I don’t have time” from a mum, I’m asking “Okay, so tell me how your day looks like

Oftentimes mums feel so overwhelmed with their duties, feeling stressed, worried of not being able to get things done…and they keep thinking about it and worry about it instead of having things done. That’s wasting time.

When asked about how much time she spends watching TV, it’s a lot. 20 hours a week. If you take that 20 hours a week and times that over the year, that’s 1.5 month of her life. Wasted on watching TV, soap operas and other meaningless stuff that brings no value into her life.

When asked how much time she spends on chatting over the phone that’s 2 hours a day. That’s 14 hours a week, which is another month in a yearly time frame.

I want to be very clear in here, I’m 100% into spending time doing the things you love doing, having some ME time however how about doing the things that bring some value into your life. If you have dreams, if you have goals you want to achieve, then prioritizing what’s important is crucial.

There’s no such a thing and “I don’t have time”. You do have time, you just choose to spend it in the wrong places.

You’re not going to lose weight, getting the body you want to, taking part in that running race and smashing your fitness goals if you’re sitting on a sofa (eating pizza and drinking coca cola). If you spend that time exercising, going for a run, doing a quick buggy workout, you’ll be amazed how quickly your body is changing and how great you’re feeling.

You can spend that time doing yoga, having relaxing bath or reading a book. You can have quality time with your partner or your kids, you can go to the playground with them or play together in the garden. Spending time on stuff that actually are going to change something in your life. Bring value, to yoirself and your loved ones.

Time is your most valuable asset, you’ll never get it back, so don’t just waste it.

I encourage you to take “I don’t have time” completely out of your vocabulary. At least for a month. You’ll be shocked with the results…

Your life is precious, make the most of it.


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Make Yourself a Priority Mama

As women, we are so ingrained to do everything ourselves. We believe that we must be the perfect mother, the perfect wife, the perfect daughter, the perfect friend, the perfect employee or the perfect business owner who can do it all. And on top of that we must be in a perfect shape, off course. Somewhere along the way, we forget about ourselves. We give it to everyone else and end up an emotional burn-outs instead of the woman we’re meant to be.

Especially us mums… When you just had a baby, the reality of your days may be far from what you have expected. It is unpredictable; often the day is not going to go by exactly how you planned it. You may want to lose that baby weight and start exercising, but you have no idea how to do that. When and where to train and what’s even more important how to find energy and TIME to do so…

I get it, I know how BUSY, TIRING and OVERWHELMING being a MUM is, especially when you’ve just had your first baby. I’m the one myself. It’s a giant roller coaster; one moment you’re feeling you’re on top of the world and the next moment you’re crying your eyes out feeling completely powerless! You look after your little baby but you have no time and energy to look after yourself…

Let me ask you:

  • How many times have you been putting yourself last, looking after everyone around you but yourself?
  • How many times you wanted to look after yourself and your body but never really had time to do so?
  • How many times have you said: “I’ll start tomorrow” only to find out that tomorrow never comes?

You know what…they say, “you cannot pour from an empty cup”, so if you don’t look after yourself, sooner or later you won’t be able to serve the loved ones around you. There is a reason why all airlines ask you to put your oxygen mask first before you put one on your child.

Let me tell you this: If something is important to you, you will make time for it. And your health and well-being must be in your top 5 priorities. You need to make healthy eating habits and physical activity part of your life; it’s not either or, it’s not a hobby, it’s your responsibility Mama.

Active lifestyle doesn’t need to end when you have a baby. Eating healthy and exercising is not only important but crucial for your physical, mental and emotional sanity. When you look after yourself, you will not only look better, you will feel better, you will find your confidence back, and you will be ready to rock the world. You will be the best role model for your child and the strong foundation for your entire family.

Happy Mama = Happy Child

When is now, better time to finally do something for yourself?

You are worth living the life you want, you are worth having the body you want, you are worth being the best version of yourself and the best role model for the ones around you.

Make Yourself a Priority Mama to be:
* FIT mummy who loves her body and is able to fit in that favourite jeans
* HAPPY mummy who enjoys doing something for herself without feeling remorse
* CONFIDENT mummy, who knows how to combine healthy lifestyle with motherhood without turning your life upside down
* HEALTHY mummy who is a role model to you little one/ones and the entire family

No excuses Mama, YOU need to start living the life you want and deserve NOW instead of waiting for the “Perfect” moment.

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Mum, Baby and a Six Pack

You’re a mother. 9 months pregnancy, followed by a childbirth and now, you’re holding your little angel in your arms. Completely new situation to you, new reality, new responsibilities and so many insecurities whether you can handle it or not. You’re a first-time mother with no experience with babies whatsoever. But you go with the flow, you manage to survive and your little one seems like she/he is surviving too. After few weeks you feel something is missing. You feel lonely, you feel bored, you feel like you’re doing same thing over and over again wondering whether your life would always look this way?

But you keep quiet. You don’t want to say it out loud worrying that people may judge you for being a bad mother. After all, you love your child to bits. Right?

But still, something is missing, and something is not feeling right…What’s missing is having some time for yourself, some ME time on your own. What’s not feeling right is you not feeling good in your own body, as come on, you’re not pregnant anymore but you still look like you’re. You want to start exercising and getting your body back. You want to be back doing the things you loved doing before having a baby and getting your life back. So, you start looking for ways on how to make it possible.

And then you start, slowly but surely and you begin feeling amazing again. You do your workout, you go to the gym, you take on running, you buy a jogging stroller and start training for a race. Your training schedule is quite demanding, you’re breastfeeding, not sleeping through the night and oftentimes you feel really tired. But you still enjoy it though. Physical activity makes you feel happy, that is you being in your zone, that is you doing what you love doing and that is your time when you can get rid of all the frustrations and challenges of motherhood. So, you stay disciplined, you stay committed, regardless how difficult it may be, how much you need to push yourself to be able to accomplish your goal.

And then results start showing up. You’re losing that baby weight. You start seeing that six pack again. You’ve completed that half-marathon or a marathon and your little one is with you on your picture with a medal. Only you know how challenging that was but also how needed that was for your physical, mental and emotional well-being. You feel on top of the world.

There’re people who look at you with respect, they support you and they cheer on you.  

But also, there’re people who don’t. People who think that you’re selfish, that you’re a bad mother, that you lost your mind and that you need to be having a serious conversation with someone “sensible” who’s going to tell you how you SHOULD behave. And sadly, these people are often mothers themselves…

Because, let’s be honest…

This is not NORMAL to be completing a marathon months after having a baby.

This is not NORMAL to be running with a buggy.

This is not NORMAL to have a six pack quickly after giving birth.

This in not NORMAL to look great and feel amazing as opposed to be totally exhausted and drained.

What is NORMAL… is that as a mother you SHOULD/MUST behave in a certain way. Should and must made by society, culture, religion or someone’s opinion… as a mother you have all those obligations and you’re not allowed to think differently. You should look after the baby, you should look after the husband, you should look after the house, you should look after everyone around you but yourself. It’s a badge of honour to do everything on your own, not asking for help, pretending that you even enjoy it.

How dare you want to have time on your own when your baby needs you 24/7?

How dare you go out doing something that you want, that gives you pleasure when there’s that little human being relying on you?

How dare you fancy exercising and losing that baby weight when it’s normal and even expected to be overweight after having a child?


I’ve said this before and will repeat it over and over again – if you don’t look after yourself first, sooner or later you won’t be able to look after the ones around you. Why all airlines ask you to put your oxygen mask on first? That’s obvious, that is normal, and everyone is ok with that.

So why it’s not normal when mother wants to have some ME time?

Why it’s not normal when mother wants to go out for a run?

Why it’s not normal when mother wants to exercise, look good and feel great in her body?

Why it’s not normal when mother wants to follow her passion and go for her dreams?

Is she still not the same woman she was before she had a baby?

Has she changed as a person and has no life, no ambitions, no passions, no interests outside of being a mother anymore?

That’s absurd.

Is anyone asking daddy what happens to a baby when he’s working, when he’s playing football, training at the gym or when he’s going out with his peers? No, no one even questions it.

So, why people are having a go at a mother who has her passion, her dreams, her business, and who is organizing her life to make it work.

They don’t know how challenging that may be.

They don’t know how hard she’s been working to make her goal a reality.

They don’t know how much happier as a mother, as a woman and as a person she feels thanks to doing so.

This is insane that in XXI century we have a culture focusing so much on mother’s belly. First, when she gets pregnant, there’re comments whether she’s not too big or not too small, whether she would be able to lose that weight after or not. I love the way Anna from My Baby Care talks about it in her post: My Pregnancy Body Shaming Story. She stresses how one random comment can change the whole perception of a body for a new mum to be. And what consequences that may have. When that mother finally has her adorable baby, there’re comments whether she can train or not, whether she’s lost her baby weight too fast or not at all, whether she’s allowed to have a six pack or not, not yet. This is crazy. Why mother’s belly is such a hot topic? Can we not leave that mother alone, stop gossiping, stop making her feel guilty regardless of what she’s doing. It seems it’s never good enough. When she’s big – that’s wrong, when she’s small – that’s wrong, when she trains – that’s wrong, when she doesn’t – that’s wrong. Whatever she does – that’s wrong…really?

Although I’m far from idealising skinny model bodies pushed by the media, I’m also far from the opinion that it’s ok to be overweight when you just had your baby. That this is ok to have dirty hair, wearing maternity clothes long after giving birth, stop looking after yourself all together and feeling miserable. And then complaining with other mothers how hard motherhood is, gossiping about the one who is passing you by with a jogging stroller. No, I’m not ok with this at all. 

I know how challenging motherhood can be, I know it’s a constant roller coaster when one minute you feel like a super hero, and the other crying your eyes out with powerlessness. I know it’s challenging to find time and energy.

I’m not saying that you HAVE TO be skinny, having six pack few weeks after giving birth or completing a marathon. However, you can if you want to, that it is possible. There’re mothers out there who make it possible. If you want to be one of them, take action. And if you don’t shut up and stop commenting on mothers who do take that action every single day. Maybe when she is exercising and sweating to burn that fat off, you’re sitting on the sofa with a box of ice creams, watching Netflix?

Respecting people is giving them a space to live how they want to live, to do what they want to do. There’s no one way of thinking, no one “right” way of motherhood. Mothers have the right to have big belly after having baby and mothers have the right to have muscular body and six pack as well. And they have the right to show it off, to wear those shorts, to post pictures about their races, to be proud of themselves, not guilty because someone may feel not good enough. They’ve been working hard to look the way they look or to accomplish their goals. 

I really dream about the world where everyone gives mothers permission to look after themselves, after their needs, to make themselves a priority. Where it’s normal for mothers to look after their bodies because body is a temple. If you don’t look after your body, you’ll have nowhere to live. I really dream about the world where healthy, active and happy mothers are not being judged but respected for being role models for their children and motivation and inspirations to the ones around.  

Are you with me?


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5 Life Lessons I Learned From My Mother

My mother, my role model, my friend, my hero. She taught me what’s important in life and had such a huge impact on who I’m today. I’m forever grateful for having her in my life.

Friendships need to be nourished

She always said that people are making our life beautiful, we can see the most wonderful places, do the most extraordinary things but if we have no one to share it with, we won’t enjoy it that much. Friendships need to be nourished, friends to be appreciated, so making time for them, to be together is huge. Some of my mother’s friends she met when she was a child and she still keeps those friendship. I’ve always admired her for this. She showed me what friends for life really mean.

Go and explore the world

I remember her saying “things you buy may not last long but places you see will stay with you forever “. She always found money for me to be able to travel. Thanks to her and my dad, I had the opportunity to see amazing places, tasting variety of cuisines, meeting wonderful people, discovering how wonderful this world is. She was so right, nobody can take those experiences from me. Ever

Do what you love doing

Even though not always she agreed with my choices, she’s never forced me doing it her way. She let me make my own mistakes and learn from them. She let me make my own decisions, even though her heart was saying the other way. She always believed in me and encouraged me to follow my passions and go for my dreams.

Respect education, work and money

She’s always told me to respect teachers and focus on my education. She’s paid for all extra courses I wanted to undertake, for my English lessons and now I’m living in English speaking country, having my business in English… She’s always told me to work with 100% commitment and do what I love doing. She’s always told me to respect money and be grateful for everything I already have. Life won’t give us more until we appreciate what we’ve got.

Have more than one child

She lost her parents in her early 20’s and at that time she made a decision to have another baby. She didn’t want me to grow up on my own. So, when I was 6 years old, my sister was born and I’m forever grateful for having her in my life. Our mother taught us to love each other, to respect each other, to always be there for each other.

My mother is the integral part of who I’m today and I can say that she’s done an amazing job. There’s a saying that you can’t choose your family, well, if I could I would still choose her as my mother, without a doubt.

My dearest Mother – Thank you for Life, Life – Thank you for my Mother.


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Top Tips For Busy Mums

Being a mum is the most demanding job of all. Juggling kids, house, work, family, friends can be extremely challenging. And somewhere in between you want to find some time for yourself as well…

If you feel overwhelmed with the never-ending pressures that motherhood brings, just take a few minutes to sit down, breathe and read on the following tips:

1. Slow Down

Are you a perfectionist? Rushing around and trying to do as many things as possible at the same time can be exhausting. Give yourself a break and leave out some of the less important tasks. Come on would it matter if you put off the vacuuming until tomorrow? Sometimes all you need is just to sit down and do nothing…or going to bed early and get that sleep.

2. Build a Support Network

Do not try to do it all on your own. Ask for help – family members and friends will be happy to help you with babysitting, house cleaining, ironing and other neccessary stuff but you need to ask for it. If you don’t have family or friends around, go out and find people who can work as your support network. Try befriending mums in the playground or children centers, or join communities such as Net Mums, etc.

3. Make Time for You

Time for you is most likely the last thing on your priority list, but that’s not good. Not good for you, not good for the kids and not good for the ones around you. Without “ME” time, it’s easy to fall into a rut where you suddenly realize you’re not happy with your life. Ask your partner, family member or friend to look after the kids even if it’s just for a couple of hours once or twice a week, when you do something you want to do. Go for a run, read a book, have a bath. Join the gym, not only will you have some much-needed adult social time, you’ll also improve your health, well-being simply by exercising regularly.

4. Stay Active

Being fit and healthy makes life easier in so many ways. Regular activity will benefit your mind, body and spirit. You can do that on your own during ME time but you can also push it into everyday tasks with the kids. If you are walking with your child in the stroller, just stop in the local park and use the bench, tree or stairs to do few exercises. If your kids are older, do family exercises together like bike rides or short hiking trips. You can also walk or bike your kids to the nursery or school instead of driving them.

5. Keep a Positive Attitude

We’ve all had days when enough is enough, feeling like screaming at everyone around us. It’s easy to moan and complain when things are difficult. Take some time to do a gratitude exercise – write down all the things that you feel grateful for. Anything from little things that make you feel good (like a funny face expression of your child) to the big ones that make you feel touched (gratitude to parents for bringing you onto this world). Keep that list and add to it whenever you think of anything else and read it regularly. You can’t feel angry and grateful at the same time 🙂

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10 Tips For Running With A Jogging Stroller

If you are a runner and a mummy as well, there is an option to combine the two – running stroller. You can put your child in and off you go. No need to worry about the childcare or giving up your running all together.

Check out some important tips on how to run with jogging stroller that is safe, easy and enjoyable for your baby and yourself.

1. Be sure that your child is over six months old

It is advised not to jog with a baby under six months old in a jogging stroller, unless the stroller has a seat adapter. Never ever run with a baby in a baby carriage. There are no straps in there and it’s not stable for the head, neck and any other part of little baby’s body to do so. Keeping your baby in a car seat will enable baby to be stable and will not allow the baby to bounce around. Or you can wait untill your baby is old enough to be sitting in a baby stroller and then start running together.

2. You need to get used to it

Running with a jogging stroller requires some practise. To start with, you may need to run slower than you are used to. You need to learn how to push this vehicle in front of you, go through the pavements, bumpy roads, etc. Your arms will not be swinging naturally on the sides as you will need to keep at least one arm on the stroleer all the time. You will need to push few more pounds in front of you, so it will not only be cardio but also some resistance workout. It all requires some time to get used to, so don’t be discouraged. The more you run with a stroller, the easier it will become. And you can go for a run whenever you want to, no need to worry about childcare any more 🙂

3. Lock the front wheel

Several jogging baby carriage have a permanent front wheel, while some have an option that allows the user to either lock or unlock the front wheel. It is much more secure to run with locked front wheel as this will avoid baby stroller to turn suddenly causing a crash. I wouldn’t recommend to even trying run without locked front wheel.

4. Make sure the baby is in the harness

The harness protects your baby not only from falling but also from getting shaken. As you are moving faster, the baby is at risk to move in the stroller much more too. Although you are not running with the maximum speed, the harness is there to protect your baby.

5. Always hold your hand on the stroller

Most strollers have a special strap you can put around your hand, to make sure you never lose control of it. Always keep your hand on the stroller, it’s not safe to run hands-free, you never know what may happen. You may rotate your hands, so you get to work both sides.

6. Watch out your pace

You may be running slower than without a stroller, which i completely normal especially at the beginning. You should not be going so fast that you could not be able to stop the stroller if needed.

7. Take baby and mummy essentials you may need 

Take everything you may need for yourself and a baby during the run – nappies, wipes, snacks, water, even a favourite toy if your child has one. Most of the jogging strollers have a basket below plus some holders or compartments for you to be able to keep the neccessary things. Keep the bottle of water for yourself in there as well for an easy access during your run.

8. It’s better to run after meal time and before nap time

It is good to schedule your run before nap time because the activity may put your baby to sleep. It is not fine to schedule your run before mealtime, when your baby is hungry and might not like to be seated inside the stroller.

9. Bundle your child in the cold weather

Keep in mind that since you are running, you will be warming up, but your baby will not. Minimize your run on extremely cold or hot weathers. If the weather is windy and cold, you can use a rain or wind protection for the stroller. In hot days, be sure that your baby is protected with sunscreen.

10. If you want to take part in a race, make sure they allow runners with jogging strollers

Several road races do not permit jogging strollers, so check it out before you sign up. Other races do allow strollers but they ask runners to begin at the back. You need to know that it may be quite challenging to pass by other runners especially when it’s narrow. It can be quite frustrating when you know that you can go faster but there is no way to do so. However, when other runners see you passing them by with a stroller – their face experssion and comments are priceless 😉 and for you – satisfaction guaranteed.

Running with a jogging stroller gives you the opportunity to enjoy running without the worry of organising childcare for your little one. You are not dependent on anyone, you can go for your run whenever you want to. You can get out of the house and both yourself and your little baby will benefit from fresh air. So, go and get a jogging stroller and let’s meet on one of the running routes 🙂

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How This Mummy Completed Her 1st Triathlon When Her Baby Was 8 Months Young?

I often hear that once you have a baby, your world turns completely upside down. There is no time for the things that you loved doing, there is no time for passions that existed before, and for sure there is not time for exercises, training and sport in any shape and form. Well, I agree that with a new baby life is changing A LOT but I don’t believe that baby needs to restrict our whole life. I often hear words of admiration about my sports achievement as a new mummy, then followed by disbelief that other mums can’t do it…

Well, I want you to meet Tina. She is a mummy too and last year, in August 2016, she has completed her first triathlon before her son turned 1 year (he was 8 months, to be precise). Yes, triathlon (sprint) – 750m swim, 20k bike, 5k run. And…she’s done it this year again, for the second time…training alongside full time work, her mummy and family life. She is a super hero and a role model to her son, to her family and to other mums – showing what’s possible. She says: “WHERE THERE’S A WILL, THERE’S A WAY”. I love that.

When I was doing this interview with her, every single world resonated with me so much…her goals, her mindset, her beliefs, her attitude, her determination and her commitment…I felt that we were speaking the same language. I want you to listen to her story and get inspired by it. Read on about her journey and find out what message she has for you at the end 🙂

Alex: Hi Tina, I’m so grateful for you being here, I love your story, you are a super mum 🙂

Tina: Hi Alex, thank you for having me here, I didn’t expect that at all…

Alex: Have you been active before and during pregnancy?

Tina: Not really. As a kid I was dancing, however in later years it was rather on and off. 2 years before pregnancy I gained a lot of weight but didn’t really do much about it. When I got pregnant, I was going for long walks (min 1 hour) and I was doing pregnancy yoga. I was lucky, I had very smooth pregnancy and I must say, I loved being pregnant, all the hormones in my body had such amazing impact on my mood and general well-being. I can’t wait to be pregnant again 🙂

Alex: What made you sign up for a triathlon? Why?

Tina: I’m a very goal-oriented person. Before pregnancy I was saying to myself: “I should do this, I should do that, I’ve always wanted to do a triathlon…” but it was never enough time. So, after having a baby, there was a lot of time. Navin was born in November and in January, as a New Year’s resolution, I decided to sign up for a triathlon. It was happening in Excel London, very close to where I live, so no excuses. I wanted Navin to be outside as much as possible plus I wanted to be outside as much as possible as well.

After those terrible sleepless nights, constant breastfeeding, I wanted to be out of the house, in a different environment to be able to get my head cleared. I felt that because I was moving, I had much more energy and I believe that all mums can benefit from it.

Alex: When did you start preparing for a triathlon, what was your training plan like?

Tina: I started in January, straight after I signed up. I didn’t really have any professional plan in place. I couldn’t cycle, as Navin was too small, so I started with running. I got a jogging stroller, BOB, so I could take him for runs with me. It was difficult to start, my legs were hurting, but I was building up my mileage slowly. I’ve always been quite a good swimmer, so I knew that I would be able to manage that. I’m always about calculation, so I was thinking – the swimming will be fine, I can’t cycle now, so I need to focus on running and wanted to double my running. I was doing triathlon sprint distance which requires 5k run, but I wanted to train to be able to run 10k – in preparation for cycling. I was swimming in the Olimpic park, they had a creche there, we started with leaving Navin there for 30 min at first, then for an hour, so I could do my session. He liked it very much. I was also going to fitness classes in the local park and it was just great – hanging out with other mums, doing something for body and mind.

So, I was running 3 times a week, or 2 a week plus 1 fitness class, and I was swimming once a week or once every 2 weeks.  We started cycling when Navin was 7 months, he was about 9 kg, so just about to start, it was around June time (the triathlon was 6th of August)

Alex: How did you manage that with a small baby by your side, alongside breastfeeding, tiredness, no grandparents to help, etc.?

Tina: Yes, that’s true, I didn’t have grandparents in UK to help. When you are in the middle of everything, you don’t think about it that much, you just go with the flow, just dealing with it, you just don’t know any different. I was training with Navin – running with him in a jogging stroller, and later cycling with him in the bike. I started like that, I was a mum and yes, my life has changed a lot but I didn’t want the baby to restrict my whole life.

I believe that mums don’t need to change everything and give up on everything because they just had a baby.

Don’t be afraid of trying something new, take your baby for a run, if he/she cries, you will stop and feed him/her, it’s not the end of the world. Navin was a bad sleeper, it was hard but being outside and training was great for my mental health, it gave me so much energy, after each training I felt refreshed, energized, confident that I’m capable of everything. I’m quite competitive person, once I have a target, I just go for it. So, I did.

Alex: How was the actual triathlon for you? What was going through your mind before, during and after the race?

Tina: Before: I was excited, I had target to complete it under 2 hours but I had doubts as well, whether I can make it, maybe I should have trained harder, had a better training plan…blah, blah, blah…

During the race: I was thinking: come on, it’s my first triathlon, take it as a trial, just enjoy it, if you can make it under 2 hours that will be great, if not, that’s ok too.

After: I was soooo proud of myself, it was such a great sense of achievement. It was the most exciting experience for me. I was proud for another reason as well, I was raising money for charity –  my goal was to raise £500.00 for British Heart Foundation and I’ve done that.

So, overall 2 goals achieved – triathlon completed in 1:55 and £500.00 raised for BHF, whooo hooo.

Alex: What did you learn about yourself in the process?

Tina: That I’m capable of doing things that I was not sure I could ever do. I was very committed, when I put my mind into something, I’ll go for it, I pushed myself to the limits and I won.

Alex: Why did you decide to go for it for the 2nd time?

Tina: I set up a yearly tradition – Navin 1st year – my 1st triathlon, Navin 2nd year – my 2nd triathlon, and so on…So, I’ve done this again this year, just a couple of weeks ago.

Alex: How was the 2nd time for you?

Tina: This year I knew what’s coming, I knew what to expect, how to plan it, the distance, transition, etc. Last year I feel that I was quite hesitant in cycling, I didn’t push myself that much to still have energy for running. This year I knew that I could go faster in cycling and I would still be fine to complete my run. This year I was cycling to and from work every day, so compared to last year, I felt much better prepared for cycling.

I wanted to beat my last year result and I’ve done that, I finished in 1:53.

Alex: What’s ahead of you, any other races planned?

Tina: Next year – another triathlon and I also want to complete a half-marathon.

Alex: What would you say to other mums who don’t think they can ever do any of that?

Tina: Just do it, don’t overthink, don’t think that nonsense that you can’t do it. Where there is a will, there is a way. It will help you not only physically but also mentally and emotionally. You may think you are tired and you have no energy for any of this…believe me, when you go out and do your training, you will feel much better, you will have energy and you will feel less tired. You just need to decide, stick to it and you will do it.

Alex: Any tips to get started?

Tina: Set a goal and work towards it. Start small, one step at a time, build up gradually, don’t try to climb Mt Everest straight away. Don’t be afraid to take a baby with you, if he/she cries, that’s what babies do, they cry, they make noise, so what? It really doesn’t matter…as long as your baby is safe, clean, fed and loved. Don’t be afraid to try, just do it.

Alex: You are amazing Tina, you truly are. I’m so proud of you, you are such an inspiration. Thank you so much for taking the time for this interview, I’m sure that other mums will be inspired by your story, they will see what’s possible and they will be ready to step up their game too. Thank you so much <3

Tina: Thank you for having me, it’s been a pleasure. If I inspired at least one person, that would be amazing.

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Why I Ran a Half-Marathon When My Son Turned 6 Months

My son Kuba will be 2 years old in September…I don’t know how that happened…it feels like he’s just been born… Looking at my handsome little man, how fit and strong he is and that his favourite activities are: running, jumping, climbing on anything he could possibly go, playing up with dumbbells and exercising with my husband and me while we do our workouts…I can’t stop thinking about the power of transferring those “interests” onto him right from the very early stages of his life.

I was exercising and teaching fitness classes throughout the whole pregnancy. Very soon after giving birth, I got back to training regime too. When Kuba was  6 months young, I crossed the finish line of Wembley half-marathon. I still remember the faces of people looking at us in disbelief when I was lifting Kuba up in the air, putting my medal around his neck…

How did you do that” they were asking. The answer to this is quite simple – I’ve done this because I was prepared, and I was prepared because I was training for it.

The real question is WHY did I do that?

Why did I put myself through that demanding training, having such a small baby by my side?

Well, there were few reasons for it. And what I discovered, is that my reasons are really the universal truths that apply to any area of our life. While you are reading, take a minute and think about how my half-marathon story resonates with you, with your dreams, aspirations and your WHY behind anything you do.


I run my half marathon on Kuba’s 6th month birthday because:

  1. I SIGNED UP for it, so I had a specific GOAL with a DEADLINE

Well, the truth is that I signed up for London Marathon first and was lucky enough to get a place. This is a big story itself so that I will write more about it in a separate post. Signing up meant that I had a specific date of the event that I needed to be ready for. That’s it.

There was no room for procrastination, excuses, and justification. I had to put a plan together, training per the schedule, be mindful of the nutrition, hydration and recovery time.

What gets scheduled, gets done.

Without a specific time frame, it’s much easier to miss the training, having a cheat meal or quit all together.

  1. I wanted to TEST myself

The marathon was happening end of April, so I felt that it would be a good idea to test myself in a half-marathon first. Checking how my body will cope with the race was very important.

I didn’t run during pregnancy, I started training 3 months after having a child and needed to take the baby steps. Even though I felt quite fit, my body has changed and forgot some movements that were familiar before. So, one step at a time, overcoming few challenges on the way, I was able to move forward towards my goal.

  1. I wanted to FEEL the ATMOSPHERE of the RACE

When I run my first half-marathon, I was hooked. I loved the buzz before the race, those butterflies in my stomach, the feeling of excitement and apprehension. The atmosphere on the course was fabulous, with people cheering all the way, offering drinks, fruits, gummy bears, kids giving hi-fives. After experiencing that for the very first time, I knew that I would be coming for more. Positive emotions associated with certain events are like a good addiction, you just want to feel them again.

  1. I wanted to EXPERIENCE the finish line in Wembley

When I was going through the list of half-marathons happening in early spring time in the UK, I knew straight away that Wembley would be the one. Crossing the finish line inside an iconic Wembley Stadium – yeaaaah, I wanted to do that.

For me, life is not about buying things; it’s about experiencing moments that will stay with us forever…

I must say that it was, indeed, a magical moment for me.


  1. I wanted to go OUTSIDE MY COMFORT ZONE

Training for a half-marathon and marathon alongside breastfeeding and sleepless nights was a challenge. There were many times when I was crying out loud and wanted to give up. But I didn’t.

The magic happens when we step out of our comfort zone and do something that we never thought possible.

Confidence skyrockets, new possibilities open and we are not the same people anymore.


Mummy’s life in the first few months may feel quite daunting, repeating same things all over again, being busy all the time but, at the end of the day, it looks like nothing has been done. I know that I would go crazy if I spent my whole time with my baby, even though I love him so much. Doing the necessary training was my little escape, some precious time only for myself – time when I could recharge my batteries.

Each time after training, I felt much better, looking at mummy’s challenges under a different light. I was coming back as a better mum, better wife, and a better person.


  1. I wanted to RAISE MONEY for a good cause

I’m fortunate enough to have 2 legs, 2 arms, being healthy, having food on the table, loving and supportive family but many people don’t have that. I feel that’s my obligation to help the ones in need and for the last few years, together with my family, we’ve been doing that through an initiative called Basket Brigade. We combine a healthy lifestyle with the idea of helping others, so each race and fitness challenge is for a good cause.

I believe that secret to living is giving and we’ve already experience magic many many times.

What you give, comes back to you tenfold.

I hope you found yourself in my story as well. We are all humans, and we are all doing different things for the same reasons. I would love to hear from you, what are your takeaways here. Please leave a comment below.


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The Truth About Training & Breastfeeding

Can I train and breastfeed? Can I breastfeed and train? I don’t remember exactly how many times I’ve been asked this question, but I can assure you that it was A LOT…

Can I have both? Is it safe to have both?

If you’ve been looking for an answer, you probably noticed that there is so much contradictory information on this subject out there, no wonder most mums feel confused.

On one hand, you want to look after yourself, lose that baby weight, feel good in your body again, but on the other hand, you don’t want to “risk” losing that milk supply or be forced to stop breastfeeding altogether. Especially, when most likely, you were struggling to be able to breastfeed in the first place.

I was confused as well…From the moment I found out that I was pregnant, I knew that I would go for breastfeeding. At the same time, I wanted to get back to my training routine as soon as possible. So, I reached out for some insights, and what I found out was different point of views, mixed opinions and contradictory advice…

I was inspired by mums who’ve done amazing things while still breastfeeding, so I decided to question that “traditional” approach of not doing exercises and check it out myself.

My training was quite demanding…before my baby turned 8 months, I completed half marathon, marathon and tough mudder, and I’ve done it all alongside breastfeeding (exclusively until he was 6 months old). I’ve been breastfeeding for almost 20 months and nothing happened…


Did my training affect my ability to breastfeed my baby? NO.

Did my even intense workout had any bad influence on my milk supply? NO.

Did my participation in all those crazy challenges decrease my ability to express milk? NO.

Did my baby ever refused my milk after exercises, as he didn’t like it? NO.


Did my training had any positive impact on me as a mother? You bet.

Some of my friends took on similar challenges while still breastfeeding without any negative effect at all.

I want to stress out here that I’m not a doctor nor a breastfeeding specialist. I only share my personal experience with you. So, if you are here, we probably have this one thing in common – you too want to be able to train and still breastfeed.

Read on and let me share with you what I feel is important if you want to be able to combine the two:


is not only HEALTHY for your BODY but your MIND as well. It reduces the chances of getting postpartum depression, it helps you as a mother, as a woman, and as a person. There is this magical endorphin release, so you feel better, you have more energy which in turn has a positive impact on your milk supply. I remember talking to my gynaecologist once. Her grandmother used to say that a long time ago when women were working in agriculture, there was no time to recover after having a baby. They needed to get back on their feet quickly and work very hard, many times in extreme weather conditions. They had 6-7 kids, and they were fine…its worth to think about it.


There is this misconception that working out can decrease your milk supply. I’ve never seen that, but I was obsessed with hydration. Even if you are not training, everyone will tell you that to produce milk; you need to be drinking a lot. 2l of water a day is the absolute minimum for anyone, but breastfeeding mums is closer to 3l, even more, when you are working out. I was drinking plenty of water and herbal teas, including special breastfeeding teas. If you are not used to drinking water, I highly encourage you to shift that. Water is one of the most crucial components that your body needs and cannot survive without. If you don’t like the taste of water, it’s even better to drink it with a slice of lemon – not only will you be properly hydrated, you will also clean your body out of toxins.


There is this misconception that the quality of milk of training mums may be worse. Again, I didn’t notice any of that, Kuba was and still is a very healthy baby, off course he’s got some cold here and there, but it was never serious. There was some research that the number of antibodies might be lower after a very intense training; however, it doesn’t last long. If you are breastfeeding regularly, it won’t affect your baby.


Training will change the taste of milk, so your baby may not be willing to drink it. For me that’s another misconception…even if the taste of my milk was different, Kuba has never refused his favourite bubs. I know that lactic acid may influence the taste of milk, but it doesn’t last forever (max 60-90 min). So, if you really want to wait, you don’t need to feed your baby straight after your workout.


First, your baby will be full once you are out and about. Second, you will feel much lighter. When your bubs are full, they are heavy, they are painful, and it’s not comfortable for you to do your workout. If your baby is not hungry, express your milk and store in the fridge.

Mummy before London Marathon


Your smell may be confusing for your baby :), so I suggest you take a shower before you feed. If you can’t, at least wipe out your breasts and chest, so it’s clean and fresh.


Invest in a GOOD SPORTS BRA. Your bubs are much bigger and much heavier than they were ever before plus they are full of this gold substance that your baby loves. You need to protect them – for yourself and your baby. A good bra will support them and give you pain-free training.


If working out is important for you, you will find a way to do it. Ask your partner, friend or family member to stay with the baby when you train. Or if you are up for a run, you can take your baby with you in a jogging stroller. Once you are there together, you can do a buggy workout too.

I hope you found this helpful. Please share with me your story about training and breastfeeding. Or maybe you just had a baby, and you don’t know whether you can train? Leave a comment below.

And remember, if you are exhausted, and you don’t feel like working out at all, you don’t need to do that. It’s not the end of the world if you feel like it from time to time. It’s natural, it’s normal, all mums feel the same way.

Just relax, have some sleep, once you rest, you will see everything in a different light 🙂

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Being a MUM…

Being a mum… is perceived as the most wonderful thing that can ever happen to a woman. Everywhere we go we see adverts and pictures with happy mummies and smiley babies, emphasizing that motherhood is nothing but rainbows, joy, and happiness.



Being a mum… is not always as wonderful as we expected it to be…

Being a mum…is a giant roller coaster; one moment we’re feeling you’re on top of the world and the next moment we’re crying your eyes out feeling completely powerless!

Being a mum…is challenging, our human nature is tested to its limits. Sleep deprivation, constant feeding, and nappy changing, being busy all the time but, at the end of the day it looks like nothing has been done – but we are exhausted!

Being a mum…is repeating same things all over again and sometimes wondering whether our life is always going to be this way…

Being a mum…is neglecting our needs, our wants, our hobbies, our time to relax as we feel that there are just not enough hours in a day.

Being a mum…is sometimes wanting to run away in a place where no one (especially our child) can find us.

Being a mum…is then feeling remorse for even thinking that way, blaming ourselves for being a bad mother.

Being a mum…is lonely sometimes, with all those worries and insecurities playing in our head but feeling embarrassed to say them out loud…



Being a mum…is the most wonderful gift that we could ever get, it is indeed the most wonderful thing that can ever happen to a woman.

Being a mum…fills up our heart and our life with unconditional love, the one that we never thought possible, the one we’ve never experienced before. Mother’s love for a child is unique, and it is the most beautiful.

Being a mum…is so much joy, laughter and having fun together.


Being a mum…is learning and growing every day to be a better mum, a better woman, a better person, to be the best role model for our child and the strong foundation for the entire family.

Being a mum…is going back to our childhood, playing like kids, singing kids songs, seeing the world through kids eyes and experiencing miracles.


Being a mum is…rewarding – watching the growth and development of our child, how from babies they become more independent, turning into a little boy or a girl and then into a man or a woman.

Being a mum… is melting our heart with the smile on our child’s face or him or her asking for a hug and saying “I love you, mummy.”


Being a mum…is finding that super power that you can rock the world, problems that existed before don’t seem so challenging anymore, things that we thought are impossible to sort out – now we do them easily.

Being a mum…is uncovering that inner strength, being able to fight for our child no matter what. If our baby is sad, crying, needs advice, help, we always come running, we are always there.


Being a mum…is feeling grateful for every single moment spent with our child, for every smile, for every touch, for every smell, for every word, for every question, for every play, for every dance, for every “mummy help”, for every “mummy look”, for every “mmmmuuuuummmmmmyyyyyy”

Being a mum…is changing life’s perspective, with now different priorities, values, beliefs.


Being a mum…is a miracle, how on earth is it possible to create another human being inside our body, how is it possible to give birth…to shape their character and prepare them to explore life’s journey…

Being a mum…is feeling appreciation to our mums, who brought us onto this world, went through every single challenge, every struggle, often we gave them a hard time but they stayed strong and shaped us into great adults. There are no words to describe how we admire you, now as being mums ourselves, so much more. To my best mum ever and all amazing mums – we thank you from the bottom of our heart.


Thank you, MUM, for giving me my life, thank you, MUM, for showing me life, thank you, MUM, for shaping my life, thank you, MUM, for being in my life.

Thank you my SON for coming into my life, thank you my SON for changing my life, thank you my SON for letting me show you life, thank you my SON for being in my life.

As a DAUGHTER and as a MUM I feel so grateful, you both are the world to me, and I love you both so much.

To All the Wonderful Mums out there – you are beautiful, you are amazing, you are enough, you are doing the most demanding job of all, and you are doing it so well. You are a hero to your child, and you need to be a hero to yourself. Never think otherwise.

Happy Mother’s Day


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